I am frequently asked “What do I do as a clinical psychologist?” My usual answer is “I help people restructure the way they think on a level of consciousness.” For all intended purposes our brain is a biological computer and every time we make an interpretation or act in a specific way...

Our sense of safety demands control. This is one of the reasons why we say “No” much more frequently than “Yes” in interacting with other people. “No” and “But” are words of control. However, replying with a “No” frequently just results in an argument, as it triggers anger and defensiveness. Arguing prevents us from getting what we want and hurts our relationships with others and self.

A basic goal of therapy is gaining an ability to better manipulate ourselves and other people. This means learning how to directly influence ourselves, which will indirectly influence other people. Manipulation is the opposite of force...

Our world is based on dialectics. Simply put, dialectics is the science of the general laws of motion. It summarizes the main principles by which change occurs. So, if we want to change our lives, we need to learn and practice the principles...

Dialectics is the science of the general laws of motion. It summarizes the main principles by which change occurs. There are three laws of dialectics: 1) quantity into quality, 2) everything contains its own opposite, and 3) negation of the negation...